This week’s Spin Cycle topic is dating and all it entails. Be sure to head on over to Sprite’s Keeper to hear more dating stories.
Several years ago, I went to a Rush concert with a friend from work. We met up for drinks beforehand with my friend’s ex boyfriend and one of his friends. After the show, we met up with the guys again for a few more beers and hung out on the skeesy dive bar patio. When my bladder finally couldn’t take anymore, I headed to the bathroom. My friend’s ex was waiting for me when I came out. It was like scene out of an 80’s movie, we were standing in a grungy dark hallway and he was making googly eyes at me.

The googly eyes must have worked since we hung out and chatted for awhile. We had a lot in common and the beer didn’t hurt. We talked about music and family and work and life. Everything was going smoothly and we ended up kissing right there in that dark hallway. I know, I’m such a hoebag. After a little while, we realized that it had been too long and made our way back to the table. We staggered our arrivals so it didn’t look obvious but hello, we were gone for almost an hour. I’m pretty sure they were onto us. On the way to the parking garage, we held hands before parting ways.

At the time that all of this was going on, I worked the overnight shift at the local cable company. My secret hallway lover was the lead engineer on one of the major email projects going on so he was working a lot of overnights too. We started chatting online about anything and everything in the wee hours of the night. It seemed like a perfect fit, too good to be true. One night we were joking about getting together again (we were both embarrassed by our drunken behavior on our first meeting) and he said to come on over. At the time, I happened to have the billing system open and I thought it would be funny to look up his address. I pasted his address in the AIM window and said something like “is this where you live? I’ll be right over!”. It was innocent enough, I had access at my fingertips and I thought it would be a funny prank. Not so much. He closed the AIM window and didn’t talk to me again.

The next day, my friend asked me what the hell I’d done to freak her ex out. He had implied that I’d displayed stalkerish behavior and didn’t want to see me again. We were all supposed to go to a street fair in the upcoming weeks but the plan was off. I felt terrible. I was embarrassed for what I’d done and for making him feel like I was a stalker. I had really only intended to play a prank, not make someone afraid for their life. After I apologed profusely, he decided that we should all continue on with our original plans and go to the street fair. It was a fun night, the fair was a Halloween themed party that they throw every year in Tampa’s Ybor City. We shared a cab so that we could all have a few beers and get home safely.

My stalkee and I cooled things down for a few months until about six months later when we started talking online again. We decided to go out on a real date that didn’t involve dark hallways and bucketloads of beer. Our plans fell through that night since there was a NYC blackout and my smartypants engineer had to work on the email outage once the power to the city came back on. Instead of picking me up, I drove to his house in a FREAKISH hail storm and waited for him to finish work. We ended up grabbing a pizza and then staying up until all hours talking. Things were so comfortable and it was the perfect night. I married Jamie almost two years after that first date and haven’t looked back since. Fortunately for Jamie, the only stalkers around here these days come in toddler form and the only googly eyes being made are directed at Elmo.

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  1. Michele

    OMG, you were a hoebag. Uh wait…did I say that out loud? Ahhh…what a sweet story.

    Micheles last blog post..Our First Date

  2. Cara

    Loved how you went from stalker to wife!

    Caras last blog post..Laundry is the bane of my existance

  3. Zip n Tizzy

    That was awesome.
    I did not see that coming!
    Good thing to get the awkwardness over in the beginning. At least you know he’s cautious and will keep you guys safe. No tolerance for creepy behaviour. Hope he understands your sense of humor now.

  4. Andrea

    That was cute. I mean you are definitely a stalker but hey we all have our issues πŸ˜‰

    Andreas last blog post..Friday Fill-In’s

  5. Stacy (the Random Cool Chick)

    Totally love that twist at the end – and here I thought he was just going to end up being not so cool when you didn’t have your beer goggles on… Since Lifetime canceled ‘Starter Wife’, maybe they could do something new like ‘Stalker Wife’ instead… πŸ˜‰

    Stacy (the Random Cool Chick)s last blog post..Sick and Twisted Thousand Words Thursday

  6. WickedStepMom

    Aww Casey.. you are not a stalker… Just a very resourceful woman. πŸ˜‰

    WickedStepMoms last blog post..Spin Cycle: Dating

  7. Cat

    What a sweet story!

    I was waiting for you to say you murdered him and dumped his body in the ocean.

    Cats last blog post..In Memory of Lisa

  8. Julie@Momspective

    Ah, yeah. Ryan totally stalked me. They’re so sweet.

    Julie@Momspectives last blog post..Even Wii Mommies Need Motivation

  9. Sprite's Keeper

    I love that your stalkee ended up being Jamie! I can see where the joke was meant, but I can also see the way he took it. Classic story for the kiddies! You’re linked!

    Sprite’s Keepers last blog post..Spin Cycle: It’s A Date!

  10. Peggy

    I love a good old fashioned drunken hallway makeout session! Those were the absolute BEST!

    Ahh, the good old days!

    Peggys last blog post..

  11. bex

    clearly he scares too easy! that wasn’t weird!

    bexs last blog post..FFF: Rock and Roll God!

  12. Mama Badger

    Rush, dark hallways and beer? Sounds like my kind of “1st date”!

    That is a great story for the grandkids, though…

    Mama Badgers last blog post..My Date Spin

  13. Kyooty

    hehehe googly eyes! Did you google him too?:P

    Kyootys last blog post..Summer is not cancelled.

  14. robin

    SHUT UP! That was Jamie!?!?!? I SOOOO did not see that coming!!! Awesome story. I LOVE IT!
    PS- Do you still tease each other for the whole stalking misunderstanding thing?

    robins last blog post..The Spin Cycle: The Date From Hell

  15. Becky

    I knew it would be Jamie, because a guy you that that kind of chemistry with, you find a way to keep around.

    I love the story of your hoebag hallway makeout!

    Beckys last blog post..Wedding OMG Moments

  16. Jessica Bern

    what a great story. Oh, I long for love.

  17. GreenJello

    Awesome story! I was hoping your hallway lover turned out to be Jamie. πŸ™‚

    GreenJellos last blog post..Heads UP

  18. mrsbear

    AWWWWW. Glad he was able to look past your stalkerish tendencies. Seriously though, the address thing would have had me crapping my pants too. lol. You are my favorite kind of headcase though and you already know where I live, so no worries. πŸ˜‰

    mrsbears last blog post..Summer Fun For The Wee Bear – FFF

  19. Sandie

    Such a cute story! Glad he didn’t let your stalkerish ways get in the way of going out again. πŸ™‚

    Sandies last blog post..It’s a Monday-Tuesday!

  20. Katie

    Sorry I’ve been away so long! What a funny & sweet love story. It should be a movie, but by the way you tell it, it could either be a romantic comedy or a thriller.

    Katies last blog post..I Kiss the Hand that Smacks Me

  21. Joanie M

    Wow! He weirded out quickly! Glad you got it all straightened out!

    I once did a background check on a guy and he completely flipped out! Good thing we lived in opposite sides of the state!

  22. Rachel
  23. Lin

    Gees, you’ve got some stories here, Casey. I’ve got opossum poop. Sigh.

    Lins last blog post..Life is an Opossum

  24. GiGi @ Incrementum

    Amen to Peggy’s comment and dude, who cares if you a little stalker-ish. There are worse things you can be, like… um….. whatever. Who cares? =0)

    Great Spin!
    I Spun too =0)

    GiGi @ Incrementums last blog post..Oooh The weekend…

  25. Lisa (Jonny's Mommy)

    Hey, being a hoebag paid off for you! πŸ™‚ Haaaa! I’m just kidding…no really…I am! Don’t start stalking me!

    Lisa (Jonny’s Mommy)s last blog post..

  26. Shangrila

    Dat…is AWESOME! Love that your stalkee turned out to be Jamie-didn’t expect it (yah-I’m a little slow on th uptake, lol!) Glad that you found one another!

    Shangrilas last blog post..Love Thursday: Hoya of Love

  27. Sammanthia

    That’s one of the best “how we met” stories I’ve ever heard. Love it! I’m so glad your happily ever after didn’t end up with a restraining order!

    Sammanthias last blog post..Where the Wild Things Are

  28. Keely

    Awwwww! Paul had to stalk me for like 8 years before I got around to dating him. He says patience paid off. πŸ˜‰

    Keelys last blog post..Rogers Wireless wants you to stalk Joshua Jackson

  29. HeatherPride

    All’s well that ends well, right??

    HeatherPrides last blog post..Rainy Day Revelations

  30. ck

    You just never know when being a hoebag will come in handy…

    cks last blog post..padding

  31. Maureen

    yep, I’m workin on it. no post this week, but I think four days/week of hiking in the mountains should cover it for a while πŸ™‚

    Maureens last blog post..The One Who Makes Me Smile

  32. jenni

    you know what they say: a hobag stalker always gets her man.

    jennis last blog post..Woe is Me

  33. anymommy

    So, he likes the stalker type πŸ˜‰ I’m kidding, I was actually annoyed with ‘that guy’ for taking it so seriously when he’d been flirting with you…but since he married you, I guess I forgive him.

    anymommys last blog post..Right Back at You

  34. Jenni Jiggety

    Ahhh… a classic tale! Boy meets girl. Girl drunkenly kisses boy. Girl stalks boy. Boy marries girl eventually anyway…

    Jenni Jiggetys last blog post..MTV Movie Awards!

  35. Fantastic Forrest

    At least you didn’t ask him for this!

    Heh. πŸ™‚

    Fantastic Forrests last blog post..I’m Going Clubbing!

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