April 2, 2009 6:00 am
Jamie and I had a glorious night out last week when our old babysitter was available for the night. This rarely happens since we don’t like to bother our current babysitter (who I’d trust with my kid’s lives but is married with a life of her own) at night since it’s time she could be spending with her husband. We put both kids to bed before we left so the sitter basically got paid to watch TV and keep the couch warm. I went over the “what to do if the kids wake up” instructions and casually turned off my laptop as I was talking to the sitter. I closed the lid and slid it back on the counter out of reach.
We headed to the casino to lose a small fortune and lost it rather quickly. I always manage to lose on the slots but it never stops me from going back. I’m a huge dork that gets pleasure from pushing a button OVER and OVER as my money dwindles away. Yes, I may have a teensy gambling problem but we only go once or twice a year so it’s not too crippling on our bank account. Having kids has actually slowed down our gambling hobby since we used to go to Vegas and Atlantic City on yearly gambling junkets.
The next day, I was putzing around on the laptop when I decided to login to Facebook. I only remember that I actually have a Facebook account about once a month and rarely check it. (Before you ask, I’m sorry but NO, I will not friend you on Facebook since that would mean that my real and blogging worlds would collide and we can’t have that). When I went to login, there was a strange email address in the username field. I was baffled, it wasn’t any of the super secret aliases that Jamie or I use and we’re the only two people who use the laptop. I googled the address and it came up to my babysitter’s Facebook page. She had used my laptop that night while she was watching the kids.
I was pretty livid that she took it upon herself to use my laptop without asking. We’ve never had a conversation about it but I physically powered it down, closed it and slid it across the counter in front of the girl. Isn’t that a sign for “not for you to use”? Plus, she deliberately closed it and put it back in the exact same spot when she was done with it so I wouldn’t know she had even used it.
Jamie is on the other side of this argument. It may be that he doesn’t want to lose a potential babysitter but he thinks that using someone’s laptop is no different than watching their TV. That a computer/laptop is just another standard thing that people use when they visit. To me, having someone use my laptop without permission is like a violation of my trust. My laptop contains confidential information, stored passwords and the like. Plus, my blog is one of my stored homepage tabs so now my sitter is probably reading my secret blog. I actually clear my homepage before my family comes over in case they want to use the laptop. Talk about neurotic. I might feel bad if the sitter reads this post but she shouldn’t have used my computer without asking.
The few people I’ve asked all implied that I should have specifically told her NOT to touch my computer. I don’t understand why she would think she could in the first place so it’s a moot point. So here’s my conundrum: Should I have been pissed off? Should I rehire this girl? She seems like a nice enough girl but the part where she was sneaky about using the laptop doesn’t sit right with me. If she lied about that, who’s to say she didn’t lie about something even more important, like my children’s care? I would have felt more comfortable if she had told me something like “I got bored with the TV so I used the computer for awhile, I hope you don’t mind.” Yes, I probably would have minded but I would have given permission and have been appreciative that she was honest with me. Hopefully this will be water under the bridge the next time we need a date night but it’s been a week already and I’m still not over it. What’s your take on the subject?