Who You Callin A Ho?

December 24, 2008 5:00 am

Several years ago, some friends and I planned a December trip to NYC. It was my first “big” trip out of college, and my first trip to NYC without my parents. We were all so excited. Shortly before the trip, my friends began dating and I was suddenly the awkward third wheel. Normally it wouldn’t have been such a huge deal, but I had already paid for my nonrefundable airfare and the hotel was prepaid on my credit card. I decided to go anyway and try to make the best of the trip.

When we arrived in NYC, it became apparent that the trip was a mistake. We checked into our hotel (where we were sharing a room) and went over our plans for the weekend. Every idea I suggested was quickly vetoed, they had their itinerary all mapped out in their heads and weren’t open to my ideas. Rather than spend the trip being resentful that I had no input, I made the choice to kick back and do my own thing.

Being alone in a big city for the first time was a bit daunting. I was excited and scared but determined to show myself a good time.  I called my cousin from CT and she and her boyfriend made plans to take the train into the city and hang out for the night. When they arrived, we had dinner at a great Irish place in Times Square called Connolly’s. We bought tickets to see Black 47 play later that night and went to explore the city.

My cousin’s boyfriend was a big drinker so I was doing my best to keep up with him. We bar hopped through a few places and were feeling pretty good. One great thing about NYC is that you can always find a way home without needing a designated driver. We headed over to Rockefeller Center to see the tree since I’d never seen it before. It was huge and beautiful and also very touristy. We fought our way through the crowd to get a closer look as my claustrophobia set in.

Walking through the crowd, I saw a man out of the corner of my eye. “Ho ho ho!” he screamed. I laughed at the pedophile-looking Santa standing in the middle of the madness. I turned to my drunk cousin and said “that dude just called me a ho!”. Of course, I was completely joking but my cousin didn’t see the source of the name-calling and got pissed. She whipped around and started yelling “who called you a ho? Who the F called you a ho? Where is he?” Then I pointed out this dude:

And we all had a good laugh over it. I guess if you wear a red suit and fake beard, you get a license to call people a ho anytime you want. I’ll have to remember that. We went to the Black 47 show and had a great (drunken) time. My cousin and her boyfriend caught the train back to CT and I spent the rest of the night wandering the city alone. (If my mother ever read this, she would be appalled at the thought of me walking around NYC alone but I assure you, I stayed in the well-lit areas).

The rest of the trip was great, I ended up going to a sports bar and befriending a table full of drunken Bucs fans to watch the game that Sunday. Then I caught the train out of the city and had my cousin pick me up to go to dinner at my Aunt and Uncle’s house. It really turned into a fun trip, especially since it started out so crappy. I’m old and married now and I’ll probably never take another solo trip like that again but I’m glad I did. Even if some random dude DID call me a ho in the middle of a crowd.


One of the highlights of the trip was me on my first subway ride:

As a FL girl, I was SO STOKED to get to wear a hat and gloves. That rarely happens here.

A couple of years later, I spent New Year’s Eve in the city with Jamie and we had a blast.



  1. Debbie

    Ho Ho Ho … funny how that didn’t raise an eyebrow 10 years ago and now Santa and his Ho Ho Ho makes everyone giggle.

    I hope Santa Ho Ho Hos his way down your chimney (wait … you live in Tampa) um, I mean finds his way inside SOMEHOW and leaves everyone just what they wanted for Christmas.

    Merry Christmas!

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  2. Debbie

    Note how I DID not comment about being first?

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  3. Debbie

    Very mature of me, wasn’t it?

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  4. Michelle

    Have a great holiday!

    Michelles last blog post..Secret Santa Spin: Happy Holidays!

  5. Irish Gumbo


    I had some leftover lo mein in the fridge, and I was going to send it to you…but then I ate it! Sorry…

    Liked your trippy post, that took some courage (although the liquid kind probably helped). I haven’t gotten to do something like that in a LONG time. Plus, you got to see Black 47. In NYC. I’m jealous.

    Thank you for putting eyes on the page over at IG! 🙂

    Irish Gumbos last blog post..Cats In A Bag – A Play In One Act

  6. DeeMarie

    I’m so impressed with your ability to just go out on your own. Way to turn around what could have been a rough trip.

    HO, HO, HO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
    Merry Christmas, Casey!!!

    DeeMaries last blog post..It’s SHOCKING!!!!

  7. Sandie

    Sounds like you made the best of a bad situation. I don’t know that I would have been that brave in my early 20s! I’ve always wanted to go to NYC. I’ll get there one day!

    Sandies last blog post..The definition of insanity

  8. Sprite's Keeper

    Okay, Debbie, the fact that you commented about how you didn’t say you were first? Just as bad as FIRST!
    Casey, NYC is an awesome place and fun can be had in crowds of twenty or groups of one. Glad you dumped the zeros and ate some heros and got called “Ho!” by someone you (kinda) know.
    SOunds like a blast!

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  9. feener

    you are the nicest ho i know

    feeners last blog post..Who is going to take care of me ?

  10. Christy

    Don’t say you’ll never go on a solo trip again! You have to do those things once in a while–especially being a mom! It keeps you sane to have these small glimpses of yourself w/o kids.

    I love NYC–one of my favorite places! I always wanted to live there, but that shipped has sailed–at least for now. I’ll probably be the only retiree to go north after my kids leave home!

  11. shonda

    Debbie made a good point.
    I love saying ho because I love speaking hip hop. No one expects it from a housewife in Western Oklahoma, but I’m just down like that.

    Glad you took having fun on your trip into your own hands. It’s a good thing you had family living nearby. The glasses rock!

    shondas last blog post..Have A Corporate, Corporate Christmas

  12. shonda

    Oh, and your cousin’s man kind looks like that dude from Mad TV.

  13. Captain Dumbass

    Is it wrong to make my 3 and 5 year old shovel snow? Just wondering.

    Have a great holiday, Casey.

    Captain Dumbasss last blog post..Oh, The Weather Outside Is Frightful…

  14. Laufa

    Aren’t you cute in NYC. Merry Christmas!!!

  15. Keely

    I’m wearing my festive santa hat, so I get to call you a ho – right?


    Anyway, sounds like an awesome trip. I miss the solo stuff sometimes. *sigh*

  16. The Stiletto Mom

    Jealous…have never seen nyc during the holidays!!! That Santa was probably trying to pick you up. 🙂

    Merry Christmas…I hope you have a great one!

  17. HeatherPride

    That last photo is a classic! I’m glad you ended up having a good time after all. Merry Christmas!

  18. Michele

    You are so NOT old. Glad you got out on your own. If you had stuck around with your so called friends you would have been miserable.

    Merry Christmas to you, Jamie, and the kids.

    Micheles last blog post..How do I stalk thee? Let me count the ways.

  19. cape cod Gal

    Honey, you are a Ho but I still love ya. Seriously, we need to chat about the glasses. You wore those in public!?!? I hope that you were drunk.

    Hope Grahams doing better!

  20. carrie

    Ho, Ho, Ho. For the first few winters in Tallahassee, I was all excited to wear hats and gloves.
    Glad you made it your trip.

    carries last blog post..My Secret Santa Gift – Spin Cycle

  21. Kirst

    Love NYC! Although when I was there I almost got robbed on the train. Thank god for Benny, my ex boyfriends cousin who got me out of a bind (long story). I would love to go back someday. Sounds like you had lots of fun regardless of the situation.

    Kirsts last blog post..Meggers Christmas Morning

  22. Regina

    I would love to go to NYC!!! Love your blog!

    Reginas last blog post..Christmas

  23. Cat

    I was wondering how he knew!

    Cats last blog post..Righteously Indignant

  24. jenni

    haha, I’ve never seen anyone so happy to be wearing a hat.

    jennis last blog post..Moore, Roger Moore – Part Deux

  25. Toni

    What a great story! Love the pictures!

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