If I had to pick a theme for my blog posts from the last few weeks, it would be something like “AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGHHHHHHHHH!” You’ve heard me bitch and complain about how sick I am, how tired I am, how sick the kids are and how sick and tired OF the kids I am. It’s gotten old and I’m sorry for that.

Graham has had back to back ear infections for about the last five months. We finally got in to see the ENT last Friday to see if he needed to have tubes put in. The answer: Yes, he needs them ASAP since his ears are so bad and antibiotics are a joke to them. He also needs his adenoids and tonsils taken out in the process. We’ve got the trifecta surgery scheduled for next Wednesday. Going into the appointment, I was hesitant about whether I’d want to put tubes in should they recommend it. So many people I’ve talked to said it’s the best thing ever since it completely solved the ear infection issue. Then the dude kept adding procedures and my head was spinning. I told him he just “Supersized my kid’s sugery in a matter of seconds.” He laughed politely and said they’d book it for a week from Wednesday.

Ever since last week’s appointment, I’ve been a wreck. I keep thinking about the risks of anesthesia, and what the worst case scenario is (death?!?). I’ll be driving down the road and think about it and my eyes will well up with tears. It’s not good. I’ve got another week’s worth of freaking out to do before the surgery is done and over with. I know I’m nuts to think like this but I just can’t help it! Last night, I made the mistake of watching a tonsillectomy video. I quickly shut my laptop a few seconds in and tried to forget what I had just watched.

The silver lining is that I’m going to get my kid back. Graham will no longer be in pain 24/7 and will hopefully return to the happy kid we once knew. He failed the pressure test in both ears and the doctor said his hearing is most likely distorted,  which explains why his speech is slightly lagging. They think it will improve his temperament, hearing, sleep and speech. I can’t wait. Although we’ve seen glimpses of the old Graham, his ear-ache-having self has been moody and angry and sometimes downright unpleasant. I know it’s the ears talking but it’s been hard the past few months. Lately, I’ve even been hesitant to discipline TOO harshly since I know he’s just lashing out from feeling like shit. I get pissy when my head feels like it’s in a vice and I can’t blame the kid for doing the same.

So next Wednesday, I’m going to step away from the blog for a bit. I’m lining up some fabulous guest posters in my absence and I’m sure you’ll show them the same lack of respect you show me. The doctor said that because of the tonsillectomy, we’re in for a hellish two weeks following the surgery. Poor Graham will have to suffer through his birthday (the 20th) and Xmas, all the while feeling like crap. Once my baby boy is through all of the healing, I’ll be back on my game. Wish us luck, people.

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  1. Michele

    Good luck!

    Try not to worry too much though I know how impossible that is. We went through this with the younger boy and it made a world of difference.

    Popsicles! That’s right! Go out and buy a freezer full.

    And FIRST!

    Micheles last blog post..Boys Ya gotta love or kill them. You decide.

  2. Casey

    Thanks for the advice. Graham doesn’t eat sweets but we’re trying our hardest to coax him into eating popsicles…

  3. WickedStepMom

    Sending some love to you and Graham. I never had tubes in my ears even though the doctors recommended it. My mom always managed to get things under control. I think my germs were afraid to make her mad!

    But, consider getting him allergy tested. It was my allergies that caused all of my infections. And no one ever recommended it to my parents. It may be nothing, but it might be worth looking into to. Worse case, you waste a few hours. Best case, you may have a reason for all the illnesses.

    WickedStepMoms last blog post..Some kind of weird bromance

  4. Casey

    That’s not a bad idea, I’ll look into getting him tested for allergies. Thanks! The infections really started when he started going to preschool.. he brought everything home and the colds led to infections. Ugh.

  5. Anndi

    My Chicklet had that surgery when she was just shy of three years old, and it was a godsend. I worried when they took her away for the anesthesia and paced and cried, so I get your fears.

    Popsicles, ice cream and some vodka (but not for the wee one)

    Anndis last blog post..Secret Santa Can Suck It *Gift* Swap – edited

  6. Casey

    Glad to hear she came through it no problem. I think vodka all around might help but I guess that’s illegal…

  7. Kiki

    I completely understand your worry about the surgery, but I am sure everything will go well.
    I have been fortunate that Mya has only had 1 ear infection (so far) but even that was rough so I can only imagine what it has been like dealing with that for months. I’ll bet he’s going to feel like a new kid when it’s all over 🙂

    Kikis last blog post..Surgery Postponed

  8. Casey

    I hope so, the ear infections have been the worst times of our lives.. I think we’ll be so much better off after the surgery.

  9. HeatherPride

    OK, Casey Lou, I hope this comment doesn’t go on forever and ever but I wanted to have a moment of solidarity which hopefully will make you feel better!

    Logan’s ears were a mess almost from the day he was born. At his very first newborn appointment he had a double ear infection and from that point on we NEVER went to the doctor with healthy ears. No wonder he was such a handful, all of the time. The kid could melt down faster than an ice cream sundae on hot tarmac in July. He wore me out and I swore I’d never have another child.

    We FINALLY got the tubes, when he was 2. Until then I don’t think he had ever NOT been in pain. His speech was delayed as well. We had taught him sign language, but if it hadn’t been for that he would not have spoken at all. At his two year checkup he only made animal noises and said “ma” and “da”. That was it.

    We had the adenoids taken out along with getting the tubes in. I was a mess the day of the surgery too. We took Logan’s little DVD player in with us. That worked out well. He watched Dora or something and they gave him some happy juice to make him woozy. They wheeled him back while he was laying there watching his little movie.

    When he came back out, he was hysterical and did not calm down for quite a while. Be prepared for that. He also started having night terrors right after that. The throat thing hurts more than they let on, so have lots of popsicles ready to go at home. Don’t be freaked out if he seems like he is in a lot of pain after. The doctors did not prepare me for that part.

    It gets better. Having those ear infections gone makes it worth it.

    Hang in there. Hugs!

    HeatherPrides last blog post..Keeping House for Sprite’s Keeper

  10. Casey

    Thanks for the comment, my dear. I had his pre op appt yesterday and they rushed me through the anesthesia part so they never mentioned anything about him being upset afterwards. Thanks for the heads up, I’ll feel better knowing it’s normal (but I’ll probably still be a blubbering mess). I’m glad you guys got Logan’s ears straightened out, I’m really hopeful that this is going to do the trick..

  11. mrsbear

    The tubes in Max’s ears were the best thing we ever did for him. If you’ve ever had an infected ear as an adult you know, the pain is friggin excruciating, I get them every now and then and it’s horrible and it makes me very cranky. But I totally understand your anxiety about putting him under, luckily you’ll be through it soon. The post surgery sounds like it will be a bitch, but compared to what you’ve been going through already, it should be more of the same. The only good thing about that anesthesia is that Max was sleeping it off all day. Hopefully you guys will all be right as rain by New Year’s.

    mrsbears last blog post..Fear and Loathing on a Wednesday

  12. Casey

    That’s true… we’re already in hell around here so what’s one minor surgery?!? I wish it were here and over already though, before I go nuts from worrying.

  13. cyndi

    Oh, Casey, I’m hoping it all goes well and he is your Graham again soon! Take good care of yourself and try not to go down Whatif Road too much – big hugs. Can’t wait to hear how it all goes, what a nice way to start 2009 🙂

    cyndis last blog post..Dressed in holiday style

  14. Casey

    Thanks, I’m trying not to worry but you know how it is… you can’t help it when your kid is involved.

  15. Lea

    Ouch! Poor baby. I was fortunate as none of my kids had bad ears ever. But my oldest boy had flat feet and had to have plugs put in his feet to give him arches. Poor little guy had to wear casts for a long time when he was 3.. no walking.. it was frustrating and I wondered more than once if we would make it through that time, but alas we did.. and he barely if at all remembers it.

    Kids are resilient and bounce back pretty good. Once recovered you’ll be glad you did this for him.

    Good luck!

    Leas last blog post..Here’s me, trying to win again…

  16. Casey

    Hey, thanks for stopping by! That must have been terrible for your poor son to have to wear casts at such a young age. I’m glad he doesn’t remember it and they were able to fix his feet. Thanks for the well wishes.

  17. Jim

    Good luck. I’ll send good thoughts your way. Try not to worry…it will be fine.

    Jims last blog post..Secret Santa Can Suck It Gift Swap

  18. Casey

    Who me, worry? Never. Thanks for the well wishes, I’m trying not to worry but I want it OVER already.

  19. Lydia @ On The Verge

    Poor little guy and Mom! It will all be worth it when it is over. I wish you both the best of luck.

    Lydia @ On The Verges last blog post..Thursday Thirteen #12 – Santa’s Names Around The World

  20. Casey

    Thanks for the well wishes… it’ll be over soon enough!

  21. carrie

    I hear it is the best thing ever and we were down that path and then Ashlan switched from ear infections to MRSA…. phhhttt.
    I hear it is the best and it is a routine surgery. ALso, you will be at All Children’s I assume, so you are at the best. I am an hour away, let me know if you need anything.

    carries last blog post..Flies On Your Knee?

  22. Casey

    Actually, his ENT operates out of Tampa General, you know… the hospital where they REMOVED THE WRONG LEG FROM SOMEONE? Yeah, I guess the ears are symmetrical so they can’t mess that one up.
    Glad Ashlan’s ears cleared up but sorry about the MRSA (and bleach baths). Thanks for the well wishes..

  23. Laufa

    Luck and hugs, hope all feel better soon!!

    Laufas last blog post..Semper Fi Santa

  24. Casey

    Aww, thanks! I’m sure we’ll be all better by next year… it’s only a few weeks away!

  25. Ali

    Oh Casey! I’m sorry you and Graham have to go through this but it will be so worth it. My little bro is 14 years younger then me and when he was 2 had tubes put in. His quality of life improved dramatically afterwards. He was a happy kid. I know it will be the same for Graham. Good luck and keep us posted on his progress!

    Alis last blog post..My new addiction

  26. Casey

    Thanks Ali, I’ll keep you guys posted when he has the surgery next week.
    I’ve heard so many stories like your brother’s, drastic personality change (for the better) after getting the tubes. I really hope that’s the case here since Graham has been so upset lately and in so much pain.

  27. Keely

    Aw, poor little dude! I totally get your anxiety but I think that tonsillectomies are pretty routine.
    Plus he’ll get popsicles and jello to eat afterwards, so hopefully he won’t be TOO miserable.
    Hugs to you all! I hope everyone feels better in the new year!

    Keelys last blog post..Not really wordless in any way Wednesday: First Haircut

  28. Casey

    Thanks dude, we stocked up on the cold/soft food and are trying to get him hooked on it before the surgery.

  29. DeeMarie

    I had the adnoids and tubes as a child. I still have some ear issues, but I am definitely the exception. My nephew also had the trifecta. He’s 7 now and has no recolection of the process. He barely remembers his ENT. The hardest thing for my sister was watching him go back but he’s a million times better for the pain he was in for a few days.

    DeeMaries last blog post..Who Am I? Where Do I Come From?

  30. Casey

    Yup, I know the surgery is for the best but the wheeling him away part is going to be hard. I’ll probably recreate the breakdown scene from “Steel Magnolias”. If so, it would make an excellent blog post..

  31. Sammanthia

    Take the break… it sounds like you need it!

    Sammanthias last blog post..Couch-1 Gage-0

  32. Casey

    I think I do and I will! Thanks!

  33. Toni

    You all will be in my thoughts and prayers! I can’t imagine what you are feeling but I am also sure everything will be fine. Take your time coming back and we will do our best to be half as nice to your guest bloggers as we are to you!

    Tonis last blog post..Thursday Thirteen 41st edition

  34. Casey

    Thanks for the well wishes Toni! And yes, please be nice to the guest bloggers or they won’t come back!

  35. Heather

    I wish you luck. Sick kids are lots of fun! And I say that with lots of sarcasm! Give yourself a few breaks during the day..trust me you will need them. 🙂

    Heathers last blog post..Nada for feliz navidad!!

  36. Casey

    Thank, I’m sure I will need the breaks. Was that an offer to come babysit?

  37. The Stiletto Mom

    He will be just fine! And think…you only have to go through this once instead of waiting a few years and having them tell you he will have to get his tonsils out. One stop surgical shopping. Will keep you in my thoughts and prayers, I would be a nervous wreck as well.

    The Stiletto Moms last blog post..Baby Punk’d

  38. Casey

    Ha, nice positive spin on it, one stop surgical shopping! Now I’m trying to think of any other surgeries we can throw in, kind of a BOGO type thing..
    Thanks for the well wishes!

  39. Krystal

    Honey – I am so sorry for this but it is for the best. You will have tour Graham back in no time, just a few more bumps in the orad before you get there.
    I will keep warm thoughts and prayers going for Graham and you!

    Krystals last blog post..Okay you asked for it!

  40. Casey

    Thanks for the well wishes. That’s why we’re going through with all of this, so he feels better and can be a happy kid again.

  41. Leslie

    Casey – my chicklet! Sounds like Graham is getting new ears and my son is getting a new nut for Christmas – awesome!!!!

    Seriously though – I am so with you! It totally sucks ass when something is wrong with your kid and it’s something that we can’t fix. And God, I have been thinking of all kinds of stupid stuff too and the anesthesia bit scares the shit out of me. I’ll be changing Dane’s diaper, looking down at him and I’ll practically start bawling my eyes out. He of course looks at me like I’m on crack – but that’s whole nuther ball of craziness for another time.

    I also have a close friend who had tubes put in her son’s ears and I swear to god that it absolutely transformedbhim. He was hardly talking before, was always sick and miserable, was sleeping like total crap, was super clingy – you get the picture. Once the tubes were in – BAM! Happy child in an instant. I don’t think he’s had an ear infection since and that was about two years ago. So, it’s tough but so worth it like you know. Hang in there girlie – I’ll be thinking of you and Graham!

    Leslies last blog post..Under the Knife

  42. Casey

    What happened to the days of asking for a truck or bicycle for Xmas, ears and nuts? Oh my.

    Glad I’m not the only one freaking out about the anesthesia. Well, sorry you are too but glad I’m not overreacting. Poor Graham and Dane probably think we’re nutzo.
    I’m hoping Graham has the same transformation as your friend’s kid… I’m pretty confident he will. Good luck to you guys, I’ll be thinking about YOU too! And take a HASAY free pass from me…

  43. goodfather

    Good, good luck. I know it’s going to be smooth sailing – he (and you) will be so much happier when he recovers.

    goodfathers last blog post..Tree farm outing

  44. Casey

    Thanks for the well wishes, I know he’ll be happier afterward so it makes it all worth it.

  45. Mrs. C.

    Our boy had his tonsils (or “grotesque pus-bags”, as the surgeon described them afterward) out three years ago. It was like a magical miracle thing. He went from being sick all the time, cranky, fussy, grumpy…you name it, to the most healthy and cheerful kid ever. Some people questioned us about why we were having such “unnecessary surgery” done on a four-year-old, but he is so much better off now there’s no question it was the right thing.

    Just a couple of tips, I guess.
    *If he has codeine for pain afterward it may cause headache. Our son was complaining of pain, so I would give him the pain meds not understanding it was his head that hurt and the meds were making it worse!

    *No meal is too strange when they are recovering. We had smoothies and milkshakes at breakfast, lunch and dinner, pudding at all hours, and even lukewarm soup at 11:30 at night.

    *I had a chart from the back of a comic book the ENT gave us about the operation. It had pictures of ice cream, jello, and drinks, and every time he had a serving of something liquid he could color one in, or put a sticker if he was too tired to color. There was a quota for each day and it made it more fun for him to color in all the servings than if we just told him it was time to drink more. You could probably find one online, or draw a quickie one.

    Good luck, and prayers for peace and strength for you and quick healing for Graham!

  46. Casey

    Thanks for stopping by! I love hearing stories like your sons, where having the surgery completely transformed them for the better. I’m really hoping that’s the case with Graham since he’s so young and doesn’t understand why he feels like this.

    Thanks for the tips, I would have never thought about the codeine causing headaches… I’ll use it sparingly (his doctor said he may not even need it but we’ll see).
    We stocked up on the good treats and are trying to get him to start eating them this week before the surgery (he doesn’t eat sweets or drink juice). Thanks for all the well wishes and the great info, it really helps!

  47. Lee Ann

    Hi! I am Jen’s sister from Sprites Keeper. I agree with Heatherpride. My son Bryan went thru multiple back to back ear infections from age 1 through age 3. It got so bad that we knew which cycle of antibiotics he needed to take next. He got ear tubes when he was 3 and I was just as nervous as Heatherpride and yourself. It was the best thing for him. He had two really bad ear infection after that and I am happy to say my 9 yr old hasn’t had a ear infection since! He was also speech delayed. He hardly talked,only grunted.We put him in a pre-K class that specialized in hearing and motor skills delays. Within two weeks,he was talking non-stop! Partly because he could hear now and the teacher’s were helping him.I know it sounds scary but everything should turn out fine! Many children get ear tubes and this procedure has been around for years. Good luck! You’ll see a huge difference! 😉

  48. Casey

    Hi Lee Ann, thanks for stopping by! I’m so glad the tubes helped your son. I can’t wait until these ear infections are over since poor Graham has been miserable for so long (causing a chain reaction around here!). I also can’t wait to see how his speech improves. If the surgery would just hurry up and be over, I’d be much happier! Thanks for the well wishes and the info, it really helps knowing of other kids who have been through it!

  49. Petra

    I have heard amazing things about the tubes and the risks really are minimal, but I know how you feel because my daughter had to have anesthesia and a risky procedure at 10 months old and it is scary!

    But don’t worry, it will be fine and then you will have your bouncy baby boy back!

    Petras last blog post..Secret Santa Can Suck It Gift Swap!!

  50. Casey

    Thanks, I know it’s routine and it’ll most likely be fine but I can’t make myself stop worrying. I need to start drinking, methinks!

  51. Kia (Good Enough Mama)

    Good luck! I won’t tell you not to worry because that would be stupid. Of course you’ll worry. You love the little doood, crustiness and all.

    I hope things go swimmingly (though not in a swimmer’s ear kind of swimmingly) and I look forward to seeing who you’ve got lined up to replace you temporarily. 🙂

    Kia (Good Enough Mama)s last blog post..Google Me, Baby!

  52. Casey

    Heheh, it’s a surprise who’s guest posting!
    Thanks for the well wishes, and you’re right… I’m going to worry no matter how hard I try not to.

  53. Becky

    Poor little guy, and right before Christmas! Of course you feel worried, but you will be glad you did it. I was much older (like 10?) than Graham when my ped decided that my chronic strep throat warranted a tonsillectomy. It was such a relief afterwards. I still remember that.

    Good luck to you guys!

    Beckys last blog post..Cracking Wise

  54. Casey

    Thanks for the well wishes! I am glad we’re doing it, I just need it over with already!

  55. cape cod Gal

    My brother had tubes in his ears when he was younger and has been fine since. That was over 20 years ago. I’m sure it will be no problem nowadays.

    Good luck girl! We’re crossing our fingers for you and will be here when you get back!

  56. Casey

    Thanks for the well wishes. Glad your brother’s tubes helped, I’m pretty confident they’ll help Graham too! BTW, I never got the call that your plane had landed the other day when you said you were coming down….

  57. Katie

    Good luck, I hope Graham feels better after all this is behind him. Poor little guy.
    His birthday and Christmas hopefully will take his mind off the yuck (and all the ice cream I hear you get after a tonsillectomy). Plus, you can always take him through the carwash to cheer him up 😉
    Really, best of luck to little Grahamburger on Weds and take care of yourself too!!

    Katies last blog post..Happy Birthday, Sayde Loo Hoo, who’s 4 more than 2 hoo

  58. Casey

    Yes, I think a dozen trips through the car wash would make the poor kid feel better…

  59. Sprite's Keeper

    I was going to recommend a day trip to Disney to get his mind off the pain, but that may actually make things worse.
    Popsicles it is then…
    Fingers crossing for a speedy recovery! (You’re nervous right now, aren’t you?)

    Sprite’s Keepers last blog post..The Short Bus Stops Here

  60. blissfully caffeinated

    I was 8 years old before I finally got the tonsillectomy I should have had much earlier. Until then I suffered from many many episodes of strep throat and ear infections. Also, I am now, in my thirties, being told that I should get tubes in my ears because I still have ear infections. Should have had the tubes as a little kid. So take what you want from that, but I wish I would have had Graham’s surgery. Would have saved me from years of pain and illness.

    Good luck, I hope the little guy feels better soon.

    blissfully caffeinateds last blog post..And I pushed and pushed for like 20 hours until finally the doctor said, “Congratulations! It’s a healthy baby blog.”

  61. Jonny's Mommy

    Jonathan had tubes put in about two weeks after his second birthday. I was terrified and a wreck. The surgery went very well and later that day he was just fine. We had a double ear infection about three months later and haven’t had one since. Thank God! And I mean that literally…thank God!

    We’ve been told he may need surgery to remove his adnoids, etc later on, but so far we haven’t had to go there. We will be praying for you next week. It is so scary to let your child go with that nurse when they take him into the operating room. I wanted to go with Jonathan! I wanted to push that male nurse aside and tell him “Nooooo! I’ll take my baby!” And Jonathan cried all the way down the hallway, reaching for me. It was very hard, but the result was very worth it. Jonathan had an ear infection every month of his first year of life except one — July of 2007. And he was in agony before the surgery, so I was so glad we did it.

    Don’t let anyone tell you you shouldn’t be worried, though. You are going to worry and freak out and that is totally normal.

  62. Casey

    Ack, I didn’t know Jonathan had tubes put in. I’ve heard that they often do tubes and then have to go back in for adenoids, his Dr likes to do both so they don’t have to do two surgeries.

    I’m anticipating a hard time watching him get wheeled off into the operating room. At least it’ll be over with by this time tomorrow, the waiting has been killing us.

  63. Michelle

    Oh poor thing! I hope he recovers quickly and I hope he’s feeling better by the holidays.

    Michelles last blog post..Peanut’s Potty Adventures Continue

  64. Cat

    Holy freaking cow,that’s a lot of tissue coming out of your kid. He’ll be fine, try not to worry too much (yeah right). If it makes him feel better, it will be so worth it! Will be thinking about you Wednesday

    Cats last blog post..Guess My Number Is Up

  65. Kirsten

    Aww Casey I know how you feel about the anesthesia. Meggers had to be put under twice for MRI’s and I sobbed like a baby when I had to sign the waiver. I had many of the same thoughts and fears as you and felt like I was signing her life away. Meggers came out of it fine and I know your little one will too.

    Once this is all over take a big breath and relax. It’s funny how we’re the ones that fall apart and our kids are so brave.

    Email me if you need to chat or anything. I’m here!


    Kirstens last blog post..Christmas Countdown

  66. Casey

    Just realized that I never responded to this comment. Thanks for the kind words and support. You’re right, the anesthesia scares me more than the surgery itself. It’s almost over, tomorrow’s the big day!

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