This week’s Spin Cycle topic is to explain how you named your blog and why you started blogging in the first place. Sorry Jen, but I had hoped nobody would ever ask how I named the blog but I’ll give it a shot…
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I’ve always been a hard working person, I like to keep busy and be good at what I do. When I was in the hospital having Graham, I logged into work and finished the projects that I needed to get done while the teachers were out for winter break. I worked from home throughout my entire maternity leave with Graham and went back to the office part time when he was only few weeks old. It’s how I roll, I was the only person there who could do my job and they needed me.

When I got pregnant with Elliot, Jamie and I made the decision that I would stay at home with the kids after she was born. It made sense since we were in a position that allowed for it, so why not? Of course, I planned to be the Bon Bon eating housewife who watched the soaps all day and shushed the kids when Oprah was talking. When Elliot came, I had a really hard time letting go of my job. I had been secretly hoping to find a balance where I could keep working AND be home with the kids. The kicker is that my job was too demanding. No matter how hard I tried to draw the line, I knew I would end up working full time along with my family duties at home. My boss tried everything to get me to stay, even offering to keep paying me for “consulting” should my replacement ever need help. Talk about a cake gig but I just couldn’t do it. I gave my notice. I finished training my replacement and worked from home for the last two months of the school year. I still login from time to time to help my replacement but she took the reigns and ran with them. She likes to tell me that my office is still there and untouched should I ever want to go back. At this point, I don’t, but it’s nice to feel like I still could if I wanted to.

Going from being depended on by an assload of people to not seeing another adult for the majority of the day was a shocker. I was suddenly all alone with these two incredibly selfish human beings that NEVER ALLOWED ME A BREAK. At work when I had someone whining in my face, I could always walk away and take a break but here that’s just not possible. I love spending time with my kids but I was also lonely. The inner crazy started to bubble to the surface. I didn’t have any SAHM friends and didn’t know how to find any. That’s where you guys come in.

A few months after Elliot was born, I started reading blogs. I had seriously NEVER read one before that point. I’ve only ever known a handful of people who had blogs and frankly, those people were freaks. Don’t get miffed, they were freaks before they started blogging but somehow I associated one with the other and never had a high opinion of blogging. Somehow I stumbled on this blog. That chick is my Dooce. I know it’s blasphemy, but I don’t even think Dooce is all that funny and I’m baffled by her fame. Ow. That lightning bolt that just struck me kinda hurt but I stand by my decision to dislike Dooce. Ok, moving on. I kept stumbling from blog to blog and reading more stories of people I could relate to and it made me feel a little better. I was too much of a wuss to comment (and seriously wasn’t sure how), so I lurked my way all over the place. Poor Jamie had to read the ten thousand links I sent him every time I found something that made me chuckle.

One night as I was reading my nightly blogs, Jamie put the idea in my head to start a blog. I was positive that I wouldn’t have anything interesting to share and shrugged off the idea. A few weeks later, one of the blogs I read did a workshop on how to start blogging so I decided to give it a go. Worse case scenario, nobody reads it and I feel like a loser. Then came the hard part, picking my domain name. This is the part I’m embarrassed to share since the story should be WAY more interesting than it actually is. Are you ready for the story behind HAGAY? It’s here:

Yes folks, my site is named after the lyrics from a fucking Carly Simon song. I’ll pause while you laugh your ass off. Done? Ok, good, let’s move on. I stressed about picking a blog name for so long that I couldn’t even sleep until I made a decision. It was then, at 3AM, when I started browsing through my MP3 files and jotting down names. I narrowed it to a short list and anxiously waited for Jamie to wake up and weigh in. At this point, I can’t even remember the other names on the list but some of them were just plain weird. And mean. Stuff like “Ihateyourdamnchildren.com”, I set out to be a big fat meanie when I stepped into the blogosphere but don’t worry, I was all talk. Half As Good As You seemed somewhat sarcastic without actually being overly mean and I liked it. I hope you do too.

That was it, I started writing and offending daily from there. My first post got ZERO comments, and my second got one (thanks Jen). My IRL friend Robin commented on a couple but the action was limited for the first couple of weeks. Then I got the balls to delurk on a few of my favorite sites and let my potty mouth fly. Stunned, people followed me back to my site to see more. Those first few comments were like crack to me, Jamie and I got so excited that someone (who wasn’t obligated) was actually reading and stuck around to respond. From there I turned into a blog-obsessed lunatic who doesn’t know when to quit and suffers from premature eblogulation. The rest is history. And if you’re wondering if my inner crazy has died down since I took to blogging? Most days. The days it hasn’t, you can expect an expletive filled post from my end while I work things out…

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52 Comments

  1. DeeMarie
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    FIRST!! Ha!!!!
    I also went for a little while with no comments before I started delurking…
    I think Hagay is a perfect name for your site… except you’re way better than me.

    DeeMaries last blog post..This Mystery

  2. Casey
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    Ha, I doubt that. We’re both coolio, so there!

  3. cyndi
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    I just HEART you! I’m so glad I found your site, thanx to Jen’s Spin on Impressions! I completely relate to knowing mostly freaky people who blogged and not thinking anything I had to say or show would be interesting. Mine is still just a glorified scrapbook, but you have been so kind to always have something to say. Tho I’m sure the schools miss you, we’d miss you more! :wub:

    cyndis last blog post..Pretty Paper

  4. Casey
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    Aww, I heart you too! Yup, Jen hooked us all up, didn’t she? She’s like the bloggy friends-dating network or something. And I love your blog… you have the cutest boys around!

  5. Lydia @ On The Verge
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    I think your story is “our” story out here in bloggy land. I gave up an awesome paying, fulfilling job to stay home with my kids as well. I still miss it. But, my kids need me more and I wouldn’t change it. It is so funny how at first none of us comment and NOW! You can’t get any of us to stop! lol

    Lydia @ On The Verges last blog post..Monday Is My Friday

  6. Casey
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    I know, we’re all commenting fools! It took a little while but I no longer miss working… just the adult interaction I had there.

  7. Katie
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    Oh, I get it now!! LOL! I love your blog name, I’ve always thought it had the perfect touch of sarcasm. Beauty. It is really nice to have bloggy friends when you’re a SAHM. Keeps the insanity at bay.
    My blog is named so because I walked around the mall for a couple hours with a raisin stuck to my ass. Fabulous mommyhood perks.

    Katies last blog post..You’re not Zero Anymore

  8. Casey
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    Why thank you, you know I’m a smartass so the blog name must be sarcastic too. And OMG, stuck to your ass? That’s classic. You need to write that up and join this week’s spin cycle. Do it. Do it!

  9. Sprite's Keeper
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    Great spin, Casey! Is it true I was the first commenter on your site? Wow, I’m almost impressed with MYSELF. I love the snark of your blog name and the snark in the content, but your winning personality is what brings me back every time you update.
    You’re linked!

    Sprite’s Keepers last blog post..No Comprende?

  10. Casey
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    Yup, you were the first one who I don’t know IRL. Very impressive, you can call the all-time FIRST over here…

  11. Michele
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    I wish that there had been a blog world when I was a SAHM. It would have been a lot less lonely.

    I’m glad you started your blog because I really enjoy it, potty mouth and all! LOL.

    Micheles last blog post..Smile Award

  12. Casey
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    I know, being home IS lonely and I would prolly be in the loony bin if it weren’t for the blog. And thanks, glad you can overcome the pottymouthedness that is my blog and stick around! You’re pretty cool yourself.

  13. Heather
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    I’m not laughing my ass off. I love Carly Simon! “Baby Your The Best!”

    Heathers last blog post..One reason I love Colorado!

  14. Casey
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    Hehe, I guess I gave it away when I admitted that she was in my downloaded MP3’s. I secretly dig girlie music. Shhh.

  15. HeatherPride
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    So I’m sitting here staring at the clouds in my coffee and thinking, wow – we seriously are so much alike in how we started our blogs!! Except you started getting comments on your second post? It took me many posts to get a comment!

    Also, I tried really hard to like Dooce. Really, really hard. But she just seemed mean, the way she spoke about her family and I really don’t like mean people much. Snarky, yes. Mean, no. So I stopped reading her. I’m sure she cares…

    HeatherPrides last blog post..Track Suit Monday

  16. Casey
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    Heh, you’re so vain. πŸ˜‰ I only got comments because I delurked and became a commenting fool, the same fool you see here today.

    Glad I’m not the only one who isn’t addicted to Dooce. I just don’t get the hype.

  17. Keely
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    Hm, I always wondered. The title seemed a little self-deprecating for you πŸ˜‰
    I went weeks without any comments!

    Keelys last blog post..It’s just you and me, baby

  18. Casey
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    Yup, named after a girlie song. I might as well put a picture of Fabio on my banner and start reading smut novels.

  19. jenni
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    So glad you are here πŸ˜‰

    jennis last blog post..Saying When

  20. Casey
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    Thanks, glad YOU’RE here too. Is it a baby yet? I need a Sprout update….

  21. Beth
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    You’re so good, you probably think this comment is about you!

    Love your domain name. It’s so fun to play around with it and change it.

    Beths last blog post..Don’t Hate ’08, Hasay Diet

  22. Casey
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    I do think this comment is about me, but then, it IS about me. Right? Glad you like the domain name, you’ve got some clever ones yourself.

  23. Brenda-SeriouslyMama
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    Yay! I was right all along about the lyrics. Awesome!

    Brenda-SeriouslyMamas last blog post..Holy smokes! Do… Do you know what this is? This is… A… An Update!

  24. Casey
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    So you were onto my cover this whole time and didn’t speak up?

  25. Jonny's Mommmy
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    Ok. I know this is bad, but I agree about Dooce. What is the deal with 3,000 comments on one post? She’s not that funny or interesting is she? Well, whatever. She’s the queen or whatever.

    And the title of your blog? Well, at least that is more interesting than mine. I’ll write about that later. Even my reason for blogging is boring as dirt!

    Jonny’s Mommmys last blog post..The yuk that is HFAMD: Because I like acronyms

  26. Casey
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    I dunno what’s up with her. She IS the queen though, no doubt about it. I just go along my merry way and pretend she doesn’t exist. Can’t wait to read this “boring as dirt” post! πŸ˜‰

  27. WickedStepMom
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    I always wondered if you named your blog after the Carly Simon song. That is so awesome!!

    I love your writing and I am glad that you found the outlet in blogging that has helped me so much too.

    WickedStepMoms last blog post..Some kind of weird bromance

  28. Casey
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    Thanks! It does help, I don’t think I’d be able to stay home with kids all day and not have some sort of outlet…

  29. Jim
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    I know I like it. Some big fat meanie you turned out to be.

    Comments are like crack? I never noticed…just kidding. I’m a total whore for them.

    Oh…I forgot…bwahahaha to the Carly Simon.

    Jims last blog post..Spin Cycle: Birth of Blog

  30. Casey
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    I AM a meanie. Jerk. Ok, sorry I called you a jerk. And yes, I’m pretty sure anyone who blogs is addicted to comments, whether they admit it or not.

  31. Cat
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    That’s a great blog name story! I secretly love me some Carly Simon…don’t laugh…oh wait, you won’t. Ok, never mind! So glad you started blogging.

    I forgive you for not loving Dooce, but only because…um…guess I shouldn’t try to reason that one out !

    Cats last blog post..Arkansas: The Final Chapter

  32. Casey
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    I can’t really laugh if I admitted to liking her too. Oh well, my cover is blown. Glad to have crossed paths with you too, I dig your stuff (and you’re sarcasm).

  33. Cape Cod Gal
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    I went for weeks with only Daddyfiles commenting on mind.

    Comments are like crack to me too! I love them! I always try to comment on peoples blogs and answer the comments on mine. The things I do for you people!

    Cape Cod Gals last blog post..I’m Grown up..and Apparently Forgetful Too!

  34. Casey
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    Thanks for caring enough to respond to us. It must be terrible for you…

  35. Cape Cod Gal
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    It is! The stress of coming up with something clever but making sure you know I still care….OMG! The pressure!

    Cape Cod Gals last blog post..I’m Grown up..and Apparently Forgetful Too!

  36. Ali
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    I’m so glad you started blogging! Your blog is one of my faves and I also love HASAY. I also laugh out loud to a lot of stuff you write. so thanks for getting out of your shell.

    I started my blog when I was pregnant with Frankles and I was working. But now as a SAHM I don’t feel so disconnected from the world. Blogging rocks!

    Alis last blog post..Club HASAY update

  37. Casey
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    Aww, thanks! I’m glad you joined HASAY and we found each other’s blog. I dig your stuff too but I’m jealous of your furniture refinishing skills.
    Blogging is a HUGE help when trying to avoid going nuts. Wait until Frankles is mobile, you’re going to need an outlet more than ever!

  38. Becky
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    I love that story. And I do love the title! I never ever thought of that song, though.

    As for me, I thought of Suburban Matron instantly. And thank the lords that the domain was available. Not as exciting as Carly!

    Beckys last blog post..Tuesday Tidbits: Brotherly Love Edition

  39. Krystal
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    So glad you got the balls to blog!!! If not who else would make me laugh and smile so hard?

    Krystals last blog post..Fuming mad!

  40. blissfully caffeinated
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    I’m like Heather – You got comments on your second post? Damn overachievers!

    Great spin, and I love your blog. So glad I stumbled over here from the Steenkmeister.

    blissfully caffeinateds last blog post..ZOMG Edward Nom Nom Nom

  41. Michelle
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    Love it! I have to say I felt exactly the same way. It’s incredible how blogging recreates a sense of community that is somehow missing…

    Michelles last blog post..Random Tuesday Thoughts

  42. Toni
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    I am glad you started blogging, you are great at it! I started blogging for some of the same reasons. My rlf’s are not stay at home mom’s and it does get lonely!

    Great post!

    Tonis last blog post..Here is what is going on…

  43. carrie
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    carly….. hee hee

    love the name and now I understand why.

    carries last blog post..Lost Lurkers

  44. mrsbear
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    I think you made a great choice on the name, otherwise what would HASAY be? The ihateyourdamnchildren diet club just doesn’t have the same ring to it. Anyway, you did a heckuva job coming out of your blogging shell. And I for one am glad you’re no longer lurking anonymously, otherwise I’d have no one to pointlessly thread with. πŸ˜€

    mrsbears last blog post..Wordless Wednesday – Boys Love Their Toys

  45. The Stiletto Mom
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    Good Lord it took me a month to get comments. Showoff. πŸ™‚

    The Stiletto Moms last blog post..Baby Punk’d

  46. Christy
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    Well, I’ve already told you this, but I think the name rocks…and your header is simply brilliant. Blog on, sister!

  47. Kat Olivares@MotherFonker
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    Nobody does it better… makes me feel sad for the rest. Nobody does it quite as good as you. Why’d you have to be so good?!!

    Oh. am i carly-ing too?

    man. Been generally absent from the blogosphere. I missed dropping by people’s blogs. (and mine too)

  48. Ginger
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    just dropping in to say….I love Carly, too. But you know who REALLY gets me hot?? James Taylor!! *swoon*

    Gingers last blog post..Ginger’s Holiday Letter

  49. Casey
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    Gotta love James, I was just listening to him tonight!

  50. Debbie
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    Add me to the “Don’t Get Dooce” club. I’ve tried. Really I have. I see that damn blog on so many people’s blogrolls, so I figured it must be me. I must be losing my sense of humor. I really AM getting old.

    But it’s not just me. Whew. And besides, I like your blog. Nobody does it better.

    Debbies last blog post..Who, What, Where, Why, When and How – or at least the answer to a couple of those questions

  51. Baba
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    I love your name and as soon as Jen told me about your blog I thought of Carly. I read your blog every day…..well almost everyday. How is your son? And are things normal again? I don’t know what normal feel like any more.

  52. jen
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    fun to read.
    and to think … i just really thought you thought you were half as good as me??
    weird.

    jens last blog post..a birth story … of sorts.

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