Pay It Forward

December 16, 2008 7:00 am

Today will be my last post for awhile since Graham goes under the knife tomorrow. Don’t worry, I’ve got a kick ass team of guest posters in place so you won’t be left with nothing. You’ll actually be left in more capable hands than my own, if you can believe it. Stop by and show the love…

With everything going on around here, we haven’t really gotten into the holiday spirit this year. The Christmas decorations are all still packed away in the attic and there isn’t a tree to be found (unless you count this one). I’m just not feeling it. I figure that this is the last year I can get away without decorating since next year, we’ll have an almost THREE YEAR OLD (yikes!) and will have to go all out for his sake.

I’ve seen a few people write posts about paying it forward and helping out the less fortunate. I’m talking about Good Father and Kirsty who have both participated in The Helping Hands Project. The rules are simple:

1. Choose some way to give back. Here’s a few ideas….

* donate to the foodbank
* donate coats and blankets to a homeless shelter
* support a craft or bake sale that is in support of your local arts program or senior’s centre
* give a bag of cat litter or dog food to you favourite animal shelter
* donate blood
* throw your change in the Christmas Kettle as you’re going past
* volunteer to man the Christmas kettle
* make a new year’s resolution to volunteer some time next year to coach a kid’s T-ball team or a Special Olympics sport
* have a toy drive at school
* get a re-usable shopping bag

Throughout the year, we always spread the love around and donate to worthy causes as we stumble across them. But with everything going on around here, we haven’t done a whole lot to give back this holiday season. Sure, we donated a few toys to Metropolitan Ministries and sent food in for the families that Graham’s school adopted but it just doesn’t feel like enough. The other day, I picked up Jamie a new shirt from Target and when I got home, I realized that HE is my Helping Hands Project. Stay with me here, I have a point.

My loving, handsome, gonna take the kids tonight so I can catch up on sleep husband is skilled in the art of FIFO. As his wife, I take it upon myself to buy his clothing. Sure, he has input as to whether he’d actually wear the clothes I buy but I do the picking out for everyone in the household. And I’m cheap (as he would say, frugal). I mostly shop in the clearance section (in stores and online) and when I come across clothes I like, I buy in advance. Graham already has all of next year’s summer clothes stashed away in his closet thanks to Old Navy and Target clearance. Whenever I shop online, I usually cruise to the men’s clearance section and pick up a cheap t-shirt for Jamie.

Jamie happily accepts any new clothing thrown his way but it doesn’t end there. Oh, no. When I buy him a new shirt, he will promptly walk to his dresser and pick out a shirt to get rid of. It’s the strangest thing to watch and the very first time he did it, I gave him such a ration of shit about it because I couldn’t believe someone actually did that. His logic makes sense though, he only has so much room in the dresser (the entire thing is actually his), and if he’s putting something new in there, he has to make room. I get it. It’s just hilarious to watch him pick out a perfectly good shirt and deposit it in the running Good Will pile we have in our closet. He does it without any sentimental ties either, he just grabs and tosses.

Jamie’s abandoned shirts usually end up with a relative or friend. We’ve given bags of clothes to poverty stricken families at the school where I used to work and even to one of the school employees whose house burnt down. Jamie’s castoffs have been spread all over the state of Florida in true Helping Hand fashion. So for the rest of this year, I’m counting Jamie as my one good deed. The man truly is a giver.

Note: Jamie DID NOT approve this picture but it’s hilarous and we were laughing our asses off when we took the shot. Of course, this was take YEARS ago, before children.

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  1. DeeMarie

    Yeah for Jamie!! You know what I do when I get something new? Shove it in.
    Actually, I got rid of about 2 garbage bags full of clothes when I was packing… it’s a start, right?
    Best wishes on a quick and pain-free surgery, Graham! Keep us posted… you’ll be in my thoughts and prayers.

    DeeMaries last blog post..Thanks.

  2. Cape Cod Gal

    Big K is a giver but he doesn’t know it. I’m always going through the closet weeding out clothes etc. He’s given 3 big bags this year and doesn’t miss the clothes at all!

    Cape Cod Gals last blog post..Where’s My Guidebook?

  3. Cape Cod Gal

    Oh, and good luck with Graham!!!!! We’ll be here when you get back!

    Cape Cod Gals last blog post..Where’s My Guidebook?

  4. cyndi

    Good luck to you and Graham tomorrow – I’ll be sending healthy healing vibes your way! Yay, Jamie! I usually do that because I’m tight on space, but Dean just crams it all in. Jamie’s giving continues beyond Florida 🙂

    cyndis last blog post..Santa’s Got A Brand New Bag – Tricky Tuesday

  5. Sprite's Keeper

    John still has his ROTC uniform from high school. It’s time to let it go, John. I need the hanger for the rest of your crap! I’ve been paying it forward with Buy One Get One at Publix and giving either the freebie or low cost products to the food bank deposit box near the front of the store. We’re also going to go through Sprite’s old things and weed out some stuff to give to Good Will. Great post, Casey! Graham, I’m thinking about you!

  6. WickedStepMom

    I can just can’t imagine Bear going to his closet and discarding a shirt just to make room for a new one. LOL.. He keeps everything, even it if doesn’t fit anymore.

    WickedStepMoms last blog post..A blast from the past

  7. Keely

    Do you think he could teach Paul that trick? Because unsurprisingly, 45 old Metallica and WWF tshirts DO take up a lot of room.

    Hm, it’s probably a good time to tote a bunch down to goodwill…

    Keelys last blog post..Frozen Purple Monkey Dishwasher: Random Tuesday Thoughts

  8. Katie

    I like it! Charity by default is the way to go. Good luck tommorow!!

    Katies last blog post..You can have some of my Limoncello ello ello

  9. HeatherPride

    Oh my gosh, Jamie is THE MAN! I wish he could pop in to my house and teach Skip a thing or two about getting rid of old crap. Remember the Ugly Shirt fiasco? Yeah, Skip could definitely learn a lesson or two from that!

    HeatherPrides last blog post..Sun Worshippers

  10. goodfather

    Best of luck tomorrow!!

    My beautiful wife buys my clothes too. But I’m pretty bad about getting rid of stuff, she has to drop some pretty serious hints before I’ll go weed out my clothes, heh.

    goodfathers last blog post..Update and all things ‘M’

  11. Jim

    I wait until I can’t cram anything more in. Then it’s the big garbage bag full of clothes off to Goodwill.

    Jims last blog post..The Corner Psychos – The Revenge

  12. Lydia @ On The Verge

    Take care. Get some sleep. I hope everything goes smoothly for you and your little man. We will all be here when you get back.

    Lydia @ On The Verges last blog post..You Know It Is Time To Clean Your Purse Out When…..

  13. Michele

    I wish JR would be unsentimental about his clothes. He’s still bitching about the 60s era shirt I got rid of in 1986.

    good luck with Graham. We’ll be thinking of you.

    Micheles last blog post..Brain Droppings

  14. Heather

    Good luck tomorrow woman. We’ll all be thinking about you and Graham.

    Heathers last blog post..Girl’s Day

  15. Cat

    Great idea! Good luck tomorrow.

    Cats last blog post..Thanfully, The Turds Stayed Put

  16. Lisa (Jonny's Mommy)

    That is awesome for Jamie. Guys totally are not sentimental are they? Women can be sentimental about anything! I hope you will update us on Graham after his surgery. Hang in there!

    (The photo is pretty funny!)

  17. Christy

    That’s a good idea–my husband never wants to get rid of anything (of course, he never wants to buy anything new either, so I guess it works out.) We always have loads of kids clothes to give away; it’s nice when you have a direct line of who to give to (I think it makes it seem more real.)

    Anyway, I will be thinking of you guys tomorrow & hoping that everything turns out great–get the rest (you’ll need it! :))

  18. Michelle

    You guys will definitely be in my thoughts this week. Hugs to G.

    Michelles last blog post..Random Tuesday Thoughts: Late Night Buzzed Version

  19. Krystal

    Sending love and prayers for Graham tomorrow. I know he will be okay but I will be thinking of you guys!!!

    Krystals last blog post..Autism Twitter Day

  20. Sammanthia

    I’ll be thinking about your guys! I’m sure everything will be fine… deep breaths, mama.;)

    Sammanthias last blog post..Spin Cycle: The Inception

  21. Monica

    Hi Casey. I’m sure that Graham will be pretty groggy but so glad to see you when he wake up. And he’s going to want ice cream. My brother Paul had that whole 9 yards when he was quite small and we still laugh about how his first words to my parents were “I’m in bad shape”. But he recovered quickly and so will your little guy. It’s amazing how quickly children heal. I’ll be thinking about you Casey. Peace. -Monica

    Monicas last blog post..Beef Jerky

  22. Beth

    My thoughts and prayers will be with you and your son tomorrow. Good luck.

    Beths last blog post..Have Your Cake and Exercise it Off, Too

  23. Toni

    Thoughts and prayers to you and Graham. I love the idea of Pay it Forward! Love the picture!

    Tonis last blog post..Deck the Halls with Crazy

  24. Brenda-SeriouslyMama

    Thinking of you guys and sending great vibes for tomorrow!

    Brenda-SeriouslyMamas last blog post..Tragically Male?

  25. Tina

    Good luck Good luck!!!

    And that is SOME shirt!

    Tinas last blog post..Quarter of a Life Plus Ten Years

  26. Corina

    Thanks for the reminder to give. It is funny about the grab and toss in the good will. What a great thing to do.

    I hope everything works out for Graham. You will be in my thoughts

    Corinas last blog post..Happy Birthday, Sweetie

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