Which Way Did SHE Go George?

November 18, 2008 7:00 am

I’m ashamed to admit that I misplaced my daughter today. Not for long, but it happened. This morning Graham was at school and Elliot and I were happily playing on the floor in her room. I got up for a minute and took her empty bottle into the kitchen to put it in the dishwasher. While I was there, I put the few breakfast dishes in the dishwasher before heading back. Elliot was contentedly playing with her toys and I could hear her babbling in the monitor.

Elliot turns seven months old this week. She’s been crawling for a little over a month but in recent weeks, she’s really gained momentum. She usually crawls in stealth mode, she will lay on the floor and play with her toys and when something across the room catches her eyes, she hauls ass toward the shiny object. This hasn’t gone over so well with Graham since he has claimed every toy in the house as HIS and doesn’t appreciate Elliot playing with his toys. The girl is smart though, she knows which toys she wants and bee lines for them.

Today when I went back to Elliot’s room, she was gone. My first instinct was to look under the bed (Graham was a backwards crawler in the beginning I lost him UNDER HIS CRIB once. I know, great parent here). Elliot wasn’t under the crib. She also wasn’t in the hallway or in Graham’s room next door. I found her a good twenty feet away across the hall in our room. She crawled across the hall into our room and around the corner into our bathroom. Luckily, there wasn’t anything dangerous lying around but the fact that she escaped my watch really freaked me out.

My brief moment of panic did a number on me. Sure, Elliot was safe and only a few feet away but this is just the beginning. I know some day this situation could happen in public and the fear I felt could be much much worse. As the mother of a “runner” (note: Graham will run away from us every chance he gets), I’m afraid to bring my kids out in public. I know as their parent, I’ll need to let go at some point and give them some space, but I just lost my daughter in my own house. Have any of you guys ever lost your kids or am I the only one?

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  1. jenni

    I haven’t lost Oscar in my house, but yesterday I did find him in his crib, playing with grooming scissors. Daddy had moved the crib too close to the shelves and Oscar grabbed the baby grooming kit and immediately found the most dangerous thing to play with.

    Thankfully, he still had both eyes when I found him.

    jennis last blog post..Place Your Bets!

  2. Anndi

    I lost my Chicklet in the laundry room once. I fell behind in all the laundry I had to do and she was crawling around and decided to play peek-a-boo in the piles of laundry. She actually fell asleep in (well, under) a pile of blankets that were next in line to into the washer.

    Yeah… feel better now?

    Anndis last blog post..life at home… with the nutjobs

  3. DeeMarie

    Sounds like Elliot is going to go after what she wants, no matter the circumstances!! Sorry you had that panic attack!!

    DeeMaries last blog post..My Life in a… Cardboard Box

  4. Cape Cod Gal

    Have you ever though of using one of those “kiddie leashes” on Graham? I know, I know…they sound so bad. But, I swear if I had kids and I took them to busy, crazy places I would “leash up!”

    My SIL thinks they’re “sooooo disrepectful” and “utterly inhuman”. I tell her, just wait until you can’t find your kid in a crowded place some day.

    Cape Cod Gals last blog post..Inquiring Minds

  5. Lisa

    I lost Jonathan in the BigK one time. Talk about feeling like a horrible mother. Found him in less than five minutes, but in that time I almost passed out from the panic.

    Another time I lost, well, Hubby and I lost our niece. She was about 2 at the time and was staying over with us. One moment she was in our room , the next she was gone. We lived in a four room apartment at the time, were exhausted because the 1-year old was teething and crying all night and could not find the kid. All I could think was she had been kidnapped. With us in the other room , not 10 feet away. Yeah, I was really tired.

    Anyhow, turned out she had gone into the kitchen for a drink of water, somehow walking past us, without us seeing her, and then had fallen asleep in the floor, behind our table.

    Lisas last blog post..(W)hole lot of hodgepodge

  6. Sprite's Keeper

    He he. I’ve lost the toddler once or twice in our house and found her in the only place I would never think to look. Blue’s crate. She crawled in and just sat there watching me as I ran about the house yelling for her. Since then, I lock both dog’s crates since she still likes to sneak in there and be one with the mutts.

    Sprite’s Keepers last blog post..Another Post Asking For Advice. Why? Because I CAN!

  7. Katie

    Dude. I’ve lost a friend’s kid in a museum. WORST MOMENT OF MY LIFE. Thankfully, he also was fine. But I wanted to crawl into a hole and die.

    Katies last blog post..Remember that time I almost killed you?

  8. HeatherPride

    My husband lost track of Logan at the zoo once when Logan was not even 2 years old. He was supposed to be waiting for Logan at the bottom of the slide, but he was too busy yapping on his cell phone to notice Logan come down the slide, get off and walk away. Luckily, some lady who couldn’t even speak English found him and was walking around with him, looking for his parents. Yeah, we almost got divorced that day.

    HeatherPrides last blog post..A Mother’s Mind

  9. mrsbear

    More than once I’ve lost a kid or two. I remember losing Marcus in our backyard when he was about 18 months. I turned my back for a sec (as is always the case) and he was gone. It only took a few minutes to hunt him down, but in that time I worked myself in to a lather, I thought for sure somebody had opened the gate and snatched him and I totally deserved it because I was a horrible mother.

    I also lost Katy once under her bed, except it was like 5 am. She was three and had apparently rolled off her toddler bed, then rolled under it sometime during the night and just kept sleeping. I was getting ready for work and I went to check in on her and she was GONE. Nowhere to be found. We looked high and low before I thought to peek under the bed. Frick!

    mrsbears last blog post..Oh Sister, Sister

  10. steenky bee

    Did you lose her in that huge red bathroom? Because I could totally see that happening. That thing is huge. That’s not what she said, that’s what I said.

  11. Beth

    I lost Jonathan in a store at a mall while vacationing in San Diego. It was two of the worst hours of my life. I never went shopping in a mall with more than one child at a time after that incident.

    Beths last blog post..Week Four- HASAY Heaven

  12. Debbie

    I lost Rachel once at that age. She rolled under the sofa. The sofa sat up a little higher than most (obviously) and it had a skirt. So, I looked and looked … never once thinking my baby was under the sofa. Thankfully, she found something funny under there (springs? dust bunnies? and started with that cute little baby giggle – which led me to her.

    Debbies last blog post..A Monday Hasay Update … And Weekend Update Too!

  13. GreenJello

    Typical hazards of parenting. And I had a REALLY bad runner, too. I finally bought her a “child leash” (for lack of a better word), and tied it to the stroller that carried her little sister.

    I used to get two reactions: “How can you do this to your child? She’s not an animal!” and “Where on earth can I get one of those?”

    GreenJellos last blog post..Texting Conversation

  14. goodfather

    ACK!! We’re going through this with the one-year-old right now. She just learned how to walk, and she MOVES. She also does the ‘stealth mode’ thing, so we’re CONSTANTLY keeping track of where she is.

    goodfathers last blog post..Spin Cycle: Favorites

  15. Becky

    Oh, I have so been there. The scariest was a couple months ago when I lost my two year-old in our back yard. We have a big, wooded lot but no fence. I ran inside to get something and he went to a part of the yard he’d never shown any interest in before. I couldn’t find him and he didn’t answer my calls. I was very close to calling the police, when he walked back up to the house, missing a shoe.

    Beckys last blog post..Feats of Daring Do, and Also Shopping

  16. Heather

    I lost Diva in Wally once. She was about 4. Luckily she was still in the last place I had left. The shoe department. She was still trying on shoes. That’s when I knew I had a Diva on my hands.

    Heathers last blog post..Re-post of “Just supposed to be a simple trip”

  17. Keely

    Nope, just you.

    TOTALLY KIDDING. I lose Xander – or he loses me – all the time.

    Keelys last blog post..Of cat meat and nose rings – Random Tuesday Thoughts

  18. Michele

    Our youngest was lost a lot. Once he escaped from his stroller at Macy’s. They locked the Mall down before he was found. My mother lost him at the ski resort in Whistler, Canada. He spent all day skiing with some resort employee. She also lost him at Disney World. She didn’t have him alone much after that until he got into his teens.

    Micheles last blog post..Randomness in all its Glory

  19. Laufa

    So we wouldn’t lose MJ often, we cleared out half a cabinet with plastic bowls and lids. That was her apartment. She soon caught on, then if we couldn’t find her, we would look to see if the tupperware was on the floor instead of in the cabinet. She loved playing peek-a-boo from there.

    Laufas last blog post.."No-bake-ems are good for you"

  20. Laufa

    Umm, have I always been a monster? Look at my icon. LOL

    Laufas last blog post.."No-bake-ems are good for you"

  21. Jim

    We’re blessed (cursed?) with a clinger. I’m sure some stern talking to’s will fix everything. There’s always the fearsome baby leash for public too….

    Jims last blog post..The Meds

  22. Cat

    Ahhhh the stealth crawler. I am familiar with that child. Dogs do it, too. I have no words of wisdom for you, other than tie a bell around her leg, or put one of those cat collars on her. No? Hmmm. Velcro?

    Cats last blog post..My Honeymoon (i.e., The Most Fun I’ve Ever Had With a Man I Hope Never to See Again)

  23. Leslie

    My oldest son, who is now 4, unlocked the front door and was half way down the street before I figured out where the hell he was. Yeah, I know.

    And a question that is completely off the topic, but can I join the HASAY Club challenge thingee? I read about it at the Steenky Bee. Sounds awesome!

    Leslies last blog post..A Halloween Wrap-up

  24. Petra

    oh, my stepson was a runner from the first day he took his first step and I lost him multiple times in various different stores, parks and venues. Don’t feel bad. It was in your house!

    Get a baby leash for Graham, it will make you feel better.

    Petras last blog post..Do You Have a Dull Banana?

  25. LuckilyHeather

    I totally just wrote a post about my 5 year old’s escape attempt. She has also packed a bag and walked out our front door saying she was walking to her grandparents’ house (55 miles away). She’s good in public but mostly just because she’s really terrible at hiding and afraid to loose sight of me.

    LuckilyHeathers last blog post..Escape attempt

  26. Toni

    Oh man, sorry you had a few seconds of fear. I have been there. Now, that Hunter is almost 2 and allowed to be in a room by himself – I get the fear when I hear a crash – then I go running to the room thinking and praying the whole way, please be conscious! So far, he has been standing there laughing!!!

    Are you sure we have to let go at some time?

    Tonis last blog post..A few winnings…

  27. carrie

    Eli was a backwards crawler in constant motion. He backed up under the couch at 2 weeks old. I just about passed out.

    carries last blog post..%&^%&%$^$^$^&&%!!!!!! (18/30)

  28. Ferd

    Wow, Casey! 27 comments! That is really something! That says something about you and your writing style. Good things.
    Gail and I were just talking yesterday about kids getting lost. I think every parent has experienced the panic of a lost child, and every child has had the panic of being lost. Fortunately, it usually turns out okay. But we fear the occasional horror stories that make the news.
    Last year there was a story of an autistic child “runner” who ran ahead of his parents on a walk in the woods and became lost for 4 days. They found him unharmed hiding under a tree stump. How crazy is that!

  29. Michelle

    I had a “Mother of the Year” moment myself a couple of weeks ago (seriously, I gave myself an award…). I feel your pain. Happens to all of us!

    Michelles last blog post..Recipe Idea!

  30. Elisa

    I have done that! Very scary. Glad you found the little cutie. 🙂

    Elisas last blog post..Freeing My Mind

  31. Lydia @ On The Verge

    My Baby #4 is a roller. She refuses to crawl but, will roll everywhere! So far, I can keep up with her. Don’t worry. You were in your house. You are a good Mom. You won’t loose your kids in public.

    Lydia @ On The Verges last blog post..Giving Back During The Holidays

  32. Brenda-SeriouslyMama

    I have had that pit in my stomach a few times. My kids have always been escape artists. When Levi was about 18 months old he got out of his crib in the middle of the night and tried to crawl down the stairs. Thankfully our dogs made enough noise to wake me up. The next day we put a baby gate in his doorway.

    Brenda-SeriouslyMamas last blog post..Things…

  33. Lydia @ On The Verge

    I have an award for you over at my blog!

    Lydia @ On The Verges last blog post..Giving Back During The Holidays

  34. Miss Jack

    My mom and I lost H at Target once. ONCE! I will never let that happen again. He wasn’t quite two yet. Anyway, we took him out of the cart, mistake number 1, b/c he was insisting on walking. ANd who am I to keep a kid from being independent. Although, looking back on it, I think it would have been okay to stiffle his independence for a brief moment while we checked out. That’s what we were doing when we lost him. We had our backs turned to the cashier and before we knew it we were both going, where’s Hayden? THere he is! Heading for the door! Some one stop that kid! It was scary and funny all at the same time. He just so badly wanted to get the hell out of Dodge. I do take him to target way too often.

    Miss Jacks last blog post..What I Did On My Fall Vacation

  35. kirsten

    Never lost Meggers but did lock her in the car once. I had pulled up to Target and she was sleeping so I threw my keys in my purse thinking I’ll come around get her out, put her in the stroller and grab my purse. The doors locked(did I mention I live in super hot FL). Luckily it was a cool day. I panicked called 911 and they were able to pop the lock. It was still cool inside the car and Meggers woke up right as I opened the door. Very scary! Needless to say we didn’t go shopping out of pure embarassment, instead we went home and had ice cream.

    kirstens last blog post..Oh Yes It’s Ladies Night….

  36. April

    One time I lost our then 1 year old in the house (it’s a big 2 story house) and hubby called. I said real quick,”I lost Smiley, I gotta go” and hung up. 30 min later Hubby comes running in the house all freaked out while I’m feeding Smiley. Apparently I forgot to call him back. He thought I lost Smiley outside and rushed home from work. (We live way out in the sticks) Oops.

    Aprils last blog post..Vote

  37. Krystal

    Oh honey, I am always losing my kids in my house! Ususally though it is Baby Boy – once he learned how to Bunny Hop his way around the house – there is no stopping him! He is usually either in the boys’s room or in the dining room. That is why it is always handy to make sure that the floor is always vacummed and that if you have gates – they are locked in their secure positions. Literally, I have even lost him INSIDE the boys’s room!! So many damned touys! He hopped into one of the tops toy boxes that was overturned (it has a large opneing, it looks more like a tent then a top lid of a toy box) so nope, you’re not a bad parent, just one with a quick kid! Welcome to the club – no cool membership rewards though, just lots of headaches, near heart attacks, and of course – grey hairs!

    Krystals last blog post..Hearing things

  38. Zip n Tizzy

    Yes, and it was terrifying. Not something I want to experience again. It all turned out fine, and he wasn’t in danger, but the fear was very real.

  39. anymommy

    Have lost them all. Once, at the mall playground, I lost them all at once. I was about in tears thinking, for real? someone walked in here and took all three of my kids and I missed it? but then they were in the tree tunnel.

    anymommys last blog post..Dog Tired

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