October 10, 2008 7:00 am
I’m crossing the political line here so think twice before reading on. Keep in mind that we can still be friends even if we don’t share the same views. These are mine. Tomorrow we will resume the regularly scheduled programming.
Last week I took Elliot to the doctor to have her ears rechecked and make sure her ear infection had cleared up. Our doctor’s office is less than a mile down the road and we always wait until the last possible minute to leave so we don’t have to be there any longer than necessary. Jamie got Elliot dressed and into the car while I threw on some proper clothes (I had to change out of my standard boxers & t-shirt, bummer). We hauled ass to the appointment and pulled into the parking lot right on time.
When I went around to get Elliot out of the car, she was wearing one of Graham’s old bibs that read “Chick Magnet.” I chuckled a bit and brought her in with the bib on. We got checked in and into the examining room and the nurse wanted to know what the reason for my son’s visit was. I told her that my DAUGHTER was there for a followup visit for her ears. The doctor came in and asked how HE (Elliot) was feeling. I told her that SHE was doing fine and that I thought the ear infection was better. She looked at my purple clad kid with the chick magnet bib on and gave me a puzzled look. “What? Oh, my husband got her dressed and put one of my son’s old bibs on her.” The doctor had a good laugh about it and moved on. For the record, the ears are all better and we’ve moved on to teething.
On the way home, I got to thinking about Elliot sporting the Chick Magnet bib. Yes, I found humor in the implication that my five month old is gay, but it was also sad in a way. No, this is not a gay bashing post, in fact, quite the opposite. Since becoming parents, Jamie and I have often had the “what if” talks about our children. What if they don’t want to go to college, what if they’re into Scientology, what if they’re GAY? The answer to that last question is simple. Jamie and I don’t give a flying rats ass if our children are gay or straight, we only care that they grow up to be happy, responsible citizens. That’s it. My only concern with them being gay is the lack of acceptance that so many people out there have.
For the record, Jamie and I are both heterosexual and we were married under the law. We got hitched without a hitch (hehe, get it?). This privilege is not an option for so many deserving people out there who are just like you and me. I know that Jamie and I are very open-minded people, but I really can’t understand people’s reasoning against gay marriage or discrimination at all. I’m not asking for your opinion on the evilness of being gay. I’m not asking you to jump up and down in support of the gays. I’m simply trying to point out that these are people here, people who love each other just as much as you love your spouse. People who have kids and raise families and suffer discrimination on a daily basis.
Today my new BFF Google Reader informed me about a new post from a blog I read called Lesbian Dad. The post was about today being the ten year anniversary of a boy named Matthew Shepard being killed in Laramie, Wyoming just for being gay. Matthew was a year younger than me and I remember hearing the story back then and being shocked. Now that I’m a parent, I look at my kids and am scared shitless that they’re growing up in a world where something so tragic could take place.
I know everyone is sick of the political posts. I’ve remained semi-neutral throughout this election but here is my one time rant. Without standing on my political soap box for too long, I want to make a plea. Think of that poor kid who was beaten and bloodied and left for dead and imagine if that were your kid. Your sweet, loving kid whose diapers you changed and whose soccer team you coached. This poor kid was killed just for being different. Then visit this site and see how the candidates in the upcoming election feel about the issues. We plan on teaching our kids NOT to discriminate and I intend to vote for the candidate that best supports that practice.